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WHEN YOU FEEL AWKWARD TO SOMEONE

OVERVIEW

Being awkward means you feel uneasy when someone is around. It is also defined as, "someone who is clumsy or a situation which is uncomfortable." Regardless of the definition, I believe that we all do have experience in an awkward situation.

When you're too close with someone, you're not really ashamed to say or do anything. I mean, you act natural and everything feels comfortable. You have that mutual affection, that is being free, open, and intimate to someone.

However, in a little while, looks like everything has changed. Without recognizing it, all of a sudden, you feel the awkwardness towards your friend or maybe a family member. There's a feeling of shame holding you back from opening up and interacting, you'd rather stay alone and be silent.

Well, what happened?

What happened to those little moments you shared and cherished together? What has gone wrong? Do you still remember the good old days, wherein just a glance and you already know what's in his/her mind! That's the gift of friendship, right! And this is not only pertaining to a friend-friend. This applies as well to your siblings, cousins, parents, or anyone near to your heart.

And how does it feel to be awkward? Not good, right? You're probably missing the days you're chatting in about things and just happily enjoying the relationship, not afraid, not hiding anything, not ashamed.

I've experienced this thing so many times, and believe me, I hate it when I feel so distant from those people who are so close to my heart, our important connections. And sometimes, we don't know how it happened. We are not aware. The reality is, it didn't just happen.

JOYCE RACHELLE says:

"It's only awkward if it matters."

HOW TO DEAL WITH AWKWARD FEELINGS

Do you want your import relationships to be restored? Off course! Before it got worse. Know how to overcome and completely eliminate the 'Awkwardness'!

There are things that you can do, here's what works best for me:

1. EVALUATE THE SITUATION

It says that it is only awkward when it matters. So meaning something happened! Try to recall, what did you do? Have you say bad words or offended the other one, or vice versa, maybe you've been hurt or offended. Maybe you're hiding something or you're too proud to admit that things didn't turn out well when you decided to make a decision of your own.

When you know what's right and you're heading in the wrong direction. It is often accompanied by fear and lack of confidence. The result is awkwardness and being afraid to be vulnerable to someone. You don't want others to see your true colors. Be reminded that, violators of the law will never have peace.

Either it's your fault or not, what important is that you're aware of it. When we're conscious of the root cause, it's much easier to understand and solve the complications.

2. START THE CONVERSATION, HUMBLE YOURSELF

DAVID LEVITHAN says:

   "You’d think that silence would be peaceful. but really, it’s painful."

CORY BASIL says:

   "Sometimes the silence is the loudest thing in the room."

This is very important if you want to restore your important relationships. Even if you didn't do anything wrong. Start the conversation, say sorry, lower your pride. I suppose, at the back of your mind, you can think of the situation when it all started. Apologize and open it up. After you evaluate the circumstances, you can actually think of the solution to the problem. And it all takes courage and humility to talk first. But when you do, you'll be surprised that everything will turn out in your favor. Cause God knows your heart desires, and when we humble ourselves, He backs us up. It is said in:

PROVERBS 28:13-14

  "He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy. Happy is the man that feareth always: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief."

Confession often leads to reconciliation. It is not easy at first, it'll make you uncomfortable but I guarantee you that it is the right thing to do. Besides, Jesus always teaches us to love our enemies, be humble, and do good to them. It is said in:

PROVERBS 15:1

  "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

3. BE SINCERE

What does it mean to be sincere? It means being genuine and honest. Have you ever encounter a person who apologizes for a mistake and yet feels like it wasn't real. People know when it's fake.

I experienced this myself. I tend to say sorry and be mad at the same time. What an insincere person! I know, that sounds not good, but that's the reality. I had an anger issue, pride issue, heart issue, I'm not perfect but I'm delighted that I'm being changed gradually by my Maker day by day.

CRISS JAMI says:

  "Friends ask you questions; enemies question you."

I agree with this saying! There's a difference between being asked and being questioned. And I believe that when you become truthful to the other person, they will surely appreciate you, regardless of what you did. And even if it not, you'll still experience the peace that surpasses all understanding, God's peace. As it is written:

JOHN 8:32

  "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

PHILIPPIANS 4:7

  "And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."

4. SPEAK YOUR HEART TO GOD, PRAY

And yes, this is the best that we can do. I always include prayers when giving practical advice to my blog. It is just I cannot live without communicating with God. In prayer, we are allowing the Lord to gain control of every situation in our lives. Let's admit it, we cannot do anything apart from Him. And our security is not in other people's hands, our security is in the hands of the one who made us.

Whenever I am awkward to someone. I always take time to pause and evaluate what went wrong. I started to understand the real cause of the misunderstanding. And I pray that the Lord shall restore what had been broken. And the Lord is always faithful to answer my prayers. Because the Lord is the author of relationships, He doesn't want to harm us or destroy our connections. And He is pleased when we pray for others. It is said in:

JOB 42:10

  "When Job prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes, giving him twice as much as before."

PROVERBS 27:9

  "Sweet friendships refresh the soul and awaken our hearts with joy, for good friends are like the anointing oil that yields the fragrant incense of God’s presence."

FINAL THOUGHTS
And if you'll ask me? Do all these things effective? Try for yourself! These are all that I've learned and I was able to overcome that awkwardness. Now, I am so happy celebrating life with my loved ones and friends, not so free from problems but at least I know now what to do when I encounter the same issues again. As the saying goes, "Don't commit the same mistakes twice!"

I cannot guarantee you that you will be free from all the uncomfortable feelings in this world. That's why we have the Bible as the Manual of our Life. Remember that everyone is unique and has its own flaws and beauty.

SO WHEN YOU FEEL AWKWARD

BE TRUTHFUL, FIRST, TO YOURSELF

AND DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SPEAK UP

WITH A SINCERE AND A GENTLE HEART

THE LORD IS FAITHFUL TO LIFT YOU UP

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OVERVIEW

Our mind is a battlefield. There are good and evil thoughts. Every day we have to make a choice and it's up to you! Either we choose to believe and have hope as we open our eyes in the morning or to entertain loneliness and negativities.

Have you ever feel so lonely about your life? Lonely of losing someone so precious to you that you also forgot how to live happily. I know, that's deep. Or maybe you are discouraged, you're disappointed about yourself, everything you've planned didn't happen the way you wanted it to be. You're not contented with your life now, however, you're thinking that you can't do anything about it.

Well, you're wrong! You can do something about it! We all have dreams in our hearts. We are all capable if we believe!

C.S. LEWIS says:

"You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream."

ROY T. BENNETT says:

"Take responsibility of your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands."

ROY T. BENNETT says:

"Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”

See! We can still dream and there's still hope. I remember my sister told me once, "The desires in our hearts were given to us by God, and He will make it come to pass, just trust!" We must believe and always choose faith over our fears. It is just a matter of choice and a little more positive thinking. Our dreams will never be too far, we just have to have the right mindset.

Mind you, too much negativities in our minds can destroy us, our hopes, and dreams, it is stealing our joy. Will you allow that? It is said in:

JOHN 10:10

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”

This verse became very true to me when I experienced an anxiety attack. I was longing for long-gone moments. That nostalgic feeling brought loneliness into my heart. I was so grieved and even entertained by the lies that were echoing in my head. It was shouting saying, "What now? The old days were better, right? You're not going to make it, you can never be happy!" Wow! I entertained the voice in my head and I started to feel so tired, cold that I couldn't move or even breathe. The voice gets louder and louder, saying "Die now! Just die! It is the way out." As darkness covered my body, I see myself looking at the knife. But no! I opposed! I was convicted to get up. I was afraid but suddenly, my authority came back. I fixed myself, I stand up. I prayed.

I believe you could only see stories like these on tv. However, I experienced it myself. I was afraid and that experience changed my life. I saw God's protecting hands over my life and my family. Thanks to the Holy Spirit who's always to the rescue. My best friend. The enemy almost killed me, literally! But God saved me, caress me, picked me up. The enemy wants to take my life, but God wants to give me life and have it in abundance.

WHAT ARE SIGNS OF ANXIETY ATTACK?

1. It involves both panic and fear.

2. Chest pain, difficulty in breathing.

3. Feeling weak or tired.

4. The person may believe that they are going to die.

5. Irrational thoughts.

6. Trouble concentrating.

7. Thoughts exploding, your mind can't contain it.

And what is the cause? Too much thinking! Overthinking! Negativities and worries! Just think about it, when you're worried, it means you don't trust God enough. Worries and fear are the by-products of a 'lack of faith.' Don't meditate on your problems. Magnify how great is our God, how big is our God, and how powerful He is. The Lord does not want you lonely. God wants to give you LIFE. Let go and let God.

WAYS TO OVERCOME ANXIETY ATTACK

1. WHEN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ARE KNOCKING, DON'T ENTERTAIN!

I believe you already know how to acknowledge negative thoughts, so you can refrain from entertaining them, but if not. Here it is:

The voice of the enemy brings conflict or adversary to your mind. It strikes fear, panic, and worries. However, God's voice is so calm, it lifts you up, it gives comfort to our spirit. So the moment, negative thoughts are trying to sneak in, rebuke it in the Name of Jesus. Don't think about it. Don't entertain. Remember, you have the authority, it is one of the benefits of what Jesus did on the cross. The enemy has no hold on you and the chains are gone.

2. SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS TO SOMEONE YOU TRUST

Why is this important? Because the moment you isolate and keep it all by yourself. Those thoughts might explode on the inside of you, killing your hope, dreams, and even your faith. I believe you heard the saying, "Don't fight your battles alone." Being isolated from the world is the greatest lie the enemy uses to destroy us. Because if you're not listening to others or the Word of God, who will you listen to? That's automatic! The voice of the adversary will attack you when you're all alone and weak.

When I experienced that anxiety attack, I told my sister what is exactly going on in my head. And you know what, she encouraged me, she reminded me of who I am in Christ, she took care of me and above and beyond, she prayed for me.

If you don't have a sister or brother, you can open up to your cell leader, trusted friends, and parents. After all, those who truly love you will understand.

ECCLESIASTES 4:9-10

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. For if one falls down, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to help him up!”

3. SURRENDER YOUR THOUGHTS TO GOD IN PRAYER

No one could ever understand your situation than your Maker. Ask the Lord to take over, take captives of your thoughts. Run to the Father, kneel down, bow down, and cried out for help. You can say whatever you want to say to Him, surely He will listen. Ask the Lord to protect you from the evil one. As you pray, you will move the hands of God. Rest assured that you're safe with God. Your assurance is in:

ISAIAH 41:10

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."

4. GUARD YOUR EYES AND EARS

After the anxiety attack that I've experienced, I fast. Fasting means giving up fleshly desires. For me, it is avoiding television for one week or more until my soul desire. I remember, before it happened, I've been watching a Korean Drama fantasy-love story straight for one week. Little did I know, I was so drawn to it that stirs up strong emotions and imaginations. According to:

WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE:

"Your eyes are the window to your soul."

PROVERBS 4:23

"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

Believe me, no one can protect your eyes or ears from the negativities of this world but yourself. If you keep your eyes focused on the news, or what's trending on social media, you might be distracted from your purpose. It may cause addiction or worst, obsession. Whatever we hear or see influences our thoughts.

However I'm not saying it is bad to watch tv or use social media, it is how you will handle it. After all, I believe you can discern what's right from good, now, right? Remember! It is your responsibility to guard your heart!

5. READ ENCOURAGING ARTICLES/BLOGS/EBOOKS, MOST IMPORTANTLY "THE WORD OF GOD"

Why did I add this to the list? I mean that 'reading'. If you are not fond of reading you may want to skip this one. But this is one way of keeping yourself busy while gaining wisdom. Fill your minds with the truth, and the truth is the Word of God.

I promise you, this really helps! Especially when your thoughts keep coming back and like thunders resounding in your head. As for me, I've read the ebook entitled "JUST ONE DROP OF THE BLOOD OF JESUS" by Pastor Cesar Castellanos. That time, I was so desperate for peace of mind, really! As I read the book, I felt that it was really made just for me! It saved my life. Not the book itself but the Blood of Jesus that was shed from the cross. From there, I realized that the truth of God's Word was stolen from me. I understood that the redemption that Jesus did on the cross is complete and the enemy has no hold on me.

We all have different ways of how we can keep ourselves busy. But reading a good book is not going to harm you. In fact, 10-15 minutes a day and you'll gain a lot of wisdom. Moreover, where can we really get wisdom and understanding? Yes, you know the answer, from God. Besides the Bible is the Word of God, and the Word of God is the final authority of our lives!

PROVERBS 2:6

"For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding."

PROVERBS 3:13

"Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding."

6. LISTEN TO WORSHIP SONGS

Instead of worrying, why not create an atmosphere of worship. Instead of listening to heartbreaking lonely love songs on your phone, why not listen to uplifting and joyful songs. A song of praise that will remind you that God is bigger than your problems, He's even bigger than all that you're going through.

I know, I've been there, as I was listening to sad songs, break up songs, emo songs, I felt so emotional that I am deeply feeling the pain. Why do people always want to torment themselves? Before I don't have any idea, it just feels right, right? But now I understand that it's just a trap the enemy uses to demotivate us and play with our own feelings and emotions. So I tell you, open your phone and turn on the music that will comfort you, encourage you, and remind you that our Maker is in control.

7. BE CONSISTENT AND STAY POSITIVE

And as you learn how to overcome anxiety, be consistent day after day. It's a battle! Don't look back, don't doubt, continue to believe, pray, and nurture yourself. Nonetheless, if you entertain the thoughts again, it might knock you down this time, you'll never know. So govern your thoughts and seek God's wisdom. It is said in:

PROVERBS 2:2-5

"If you incline your ear to wisdom and direct your heart to understanding, If you truly call out to insight and lift your voice to understanding, if you seek it like silver and search it out like hidden treasure, then you will discern the fear of the LORD and discover the knowledge of God."

The wisdom from the Lord shall direct our paths. So now, choose to be positive and be consistent! You're already victorious in Christ Jesus. Amen!

PHILIPPIANS 4:8

""Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.""

FINAL THOUGHTS

Anyone can experience anxiety. That doesn't mean you're exempted whether you're a psychologist, a doctor, or even a Christian. That's why it is important to guard your thoughts and your heart always.

You may be battling with depression now. I say, do not be afraid. Your life is in God's hands. You can recover! I've been there!

Know that anxiety can be overcome. You must, however, be determined to fight and not give up. There is hope as long as there is a ray of light shining in the midst of the darkness.

Always look on the bright side even if you aren't seeing it yet. Keep the faith and persevere!

With God's help and the people around you, you can overcome anxiety!

REMEMBER:

JESUS DID NOT DIE ON THE CROSS SO WE COULD ONLY LIVE A DEFEATED LIFE.

YOU HAVE THE AUTHORITY, GOVERN YOUR THOUGHTS!

FILL IT WITH HOPE, LOVE, AND POSITIVITY.

LISTEN TO THE TRUTH.

AND THE TRUTH IS HIM, GOD.

♥♥♥

OVERVIEW

When your soul is tired, sleep doesn't help anyway! Do you agree?

"That was a cold rainy night as I was moving back and forth, while on my bed trying to fall asleep. I remember that I've closed my eyes 30 minutes ago but it looks like my mind was still wide awake.

I haven't been sleeping since I woke up nor drink coffee the whole day. I am so exhausted and all I ever wanted is to rest now."

Sounds familiar?

It's not just your thoughts that keep you awake at night; sometimes you can't sleep because you're so tired, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Have you ever feel so drained in life? I believe that once in your life you have experienced the same thing. Feels like you've lost all your energy and you don't have enough motivation to fight. Even though there is, just the thought of climbing the ladder makes you feel worn out. You're easily angered, you're not moving, you're barely breathing, you are hopeless.

That weariness or fatigue is an indication that you need to recharge yourself - your soul.

Lao Tzu says:

"He who talks more is sooner exhausted."

Mark Buchanan says:

"Most of the things we need, to be most fully alive never come in busyness. They grow in rest. "

Our weariness often is a result of putting much time or effort into the worries and bustle of this world. Stop talking, stop arguing, why not take a pause. If you'd like to reach more dreams, if you want to feel alive, take time to rest, stop draining your soul!

HERE ARE 6 WAYS TO RECHARGE AND HEAL YOUR SOUL:

1. OPEN UP / TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS

This is where your trusted friends come in. Open up to those who really care, like your parents, Godly friends, siblings, mentor, or pastor. Do not fight your battles alone. Do not detach from these important people in your life, they could pray for you!

I understand, sometimes it is easier to be quiet and just work on things alone, to solve your problems on your own. However, it is going to drain you. Your pride or ego cannot save you. And remember opening up is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign that you are brave! Brave enough to ask for help and be vulnerable in front of others. But don't just talk to anybody else, you're matured enough to recognize who are those people you need to talk to. Because if you talk to the wrong people, their solution may not be right for you, or your situation might get worst. As it is said in:

1 CORINTHIANS 15:33

"Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."

2. FORGIVE THOSE WHO HURT YOU

Being hurt is one of the reasons why you feel drained. Not only pain and unforgiveness are stealing your freedom and joy, but it also gives you a burden to carry on that makes you feel worn out.

JOHN MASON says:

"The heaviest load you can possibly carry is a pack of grudges. So if you want to travel far and fast, then travel light. Unpack all of your envy, jealousy, unforgiveness and fear."

Maybe you were rejected, criticized, or abandoned. But learn to forgive those people who have hurt or offended you. In doing so, you're setting yourself free from stress and you're unloading the negativities, bitterness, and resentment on the other side.

JOHANN LAVATER says:

"He who has not forgiven an enemy has never yet tasted one of the most sublime enjoyments of life."

You may ask the Lord to help you forgive and see the good in others. He is faithful to heal your heart and give you rest.

3. EXPRESS YOUR LOVE AND APPRECIATION TO OTHERS

HENRY DRUMMOND once said that:

"You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love."

However, nowadays, it looks like it is easy to hate than to show love. Why is it always difficult to love? Selfishness! Don't you know that being self-centered is very tiring, why? Because when it is always about you, satisfaction won't last, eventually you will feel empty and alone. It says in:

ROMANS 12:10

"Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves."

I don't know about you but for me, when you help, love, and appreciate others, it caused a feeling of happiness and well-being. A sense of self-fulfillment and joy. It is really true that if you do good to others, you're investing in yourself as well. You may not see it now but you're planting good works and it will grow soon enough.

4. COME TO THE PRESENCE OF GOD

Tired? Pray! Be away from the world and come to the presence of God. You will never experience true peace and rest but only in God's arm. It is said in:

MATTHEW 11:28

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

MATTHEW 11:29-30

Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Prayer is a battle and God's presence is worth fighting for! Your time with the Lord is very important to truly renew your strength. If we often spend time chatting or talking to our loved ones or friends, why not we can't talk to God? It often takes humility to give your burdens to the Lord. You can only enter the presence of God in focus and humility.

Nothing compares to the peace that God gives. He alone can give you fire to continue again in life and have hope. It is okay to cry out and be honest to God, He sees your heart, He sees you're tired. He wants to give you rest.

2 CORINTHIANS 4:16 (NIV)

"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day."

2 CORINTHIANS 4:16 (GNT)

"For this reason we never become discouraged. Even though our physical being is gradually decaying, yet our spiritual being is renewed day after day."

5. EAT AND RELAX

Yes, you heard it, you must eat! Our body and mind will not function well if we're hungry. Food is one of our basic needs just like sleeping. We must eat to regain strength, it is a necessity. Look at this passage about Elijah, the Lord's

prophet:

1 KINGS 19:4-6

4 "While he himself traveled on a day’s journey into the wilderness. He sat down under a broom tree and prayed that he might die. “I have had enough, LORD,” he said. “Take my life, for I am no better than my fathers.”

5 Then he lay down under the broom tree and fell asleep. Suddenly an angel touched him and said, “Get up and eat.”

6 And he looked around, and there by his head was a cake of bread baked over hot coals, and a jar of water. So he ate and drank and lay down again"

See! Amazing! The Lord already knew what you need. Just like Elijah, he was a prophet and he's also a human, just like us. He also felt tired and even got suicidal however God showed up.

Maybe you also feel the same or maybe now, you're dead. Your hope is dead. Your faith is dead. Your dreams are dead. But God is telling you, Get up and eat! God still wants to use you. He still wants to bless you. There's more in life!

6. UNWIND / WORRY LESS

What is unwind? Believe it or not, this must be one of my favorite words! Unwind means loosen up or relax after a period of work.

I usually visit a peaceful place when I feel swallowed up by so many things. Just a view of the lake, trees, and the sky is fine for me. I don't have to go out of town, for some, they call it sweet escape. For me, it is a time to be free from worries and just appreciates God's creation.

Worry on the other hand consumed your energy and time that makes you tired. "Instead of worrying what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create", as per Roy T. Bennett.

What does the bible say about worry?

MATTHEW 6:34

"Do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself, each day has enough trouble of its own."

How many times the Lord reminded us not to worry about the things of this world. If we worry, it means we didn't trust God. But if we come to Him in prayer and believe in His Word, our worries and anxiety will immediately disappear!

FINAL THOUGHTS

THERE MAY BE TIMES THAT WE FEEL WORN OUT AND DRAINED,

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE WAYS TO RECHARGE YOUR SOUL.

TAKE TIME TO REST. UNLOAD YOUR BURDENS.

LOVE MORE, APPRECIATE MORE.

WORRY LESS FOR GOD IS IN CONTROL.

GOD BLESS!

OVERVIEW

HOW TO DEAL WITH AWKWARD FEELINGS

FINAL THOUGHTS

OVERVIEW

WHAT ARE SIGNS OF ANXIETY ATTACK?

WAYS TO OVERCOME ANXIETY ATTACK

FINAL THOUGHTS

OVERVIEW

HERE ARE 6 WAYS TO RECHARGE AND HEAL YOUR SOUL:

FINAL THOUGHTS

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