EVEN WORDS LEFT UNSAID
OVERVIEW
What if all you ever knew about love was a lie? You're ready to cross even the seas and mountains, you will reach for the moon and the stars, you will fight for your feelings no matter what, you will do everything in the name of love.
That's so cheesy! And we've used a lot of claims not meant to be taken literally. Many called it crazy or madly in love, so now we associate love in some kind of lunacy, think about it.
So this is love? Hmmm...
Are you that kind of person who can easily give up everything just to be with that special someone? That feeling where you can give up your own happiness and comfort, your time with your important relationships - family, friends, and even God. I'm not saying that it is wrong to be with someone you love, of course, it really depends however, I'm talking about it most of the time! Like you're afraid to just follow your heart for the sake of avoiding arguments or you're afraid to let him/her down that's why you can't say NO.
You are missing the point of discovering your own gifts and passion in life. Yeah, I know, others might say that they've already heard of this before, that 'you have to find yourself first' or whatever. But only those who really understand the importance of self-love will truly appreciate this.
My mom once told me to find myself first - my passion and my purpose before entering into any relationship. But I've made my own radical excuse that it is okay, for I will still discover myself inside the relationship. So what now? Looks like what's important to me that time is what I've felt at the moment.
Now, I understand what she's trying to say. So let's get into it.
LET'S EVALUATE OURSELVES, IT IS SAYS IN:
SONG OF SOLOMON 8:4
"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
Nowadays, when you look on social media, seems everyone is posting about relationship goals. Being in a relationship looks so enticing. You'll eventually get an idea to try it yourself for the sake of trying.
Many teenagers failed to see the importance of pursuing friendship before they really get into a serious relationship. Most of us really think that it's right because that's what the world says. Many were skipping the friendship stage and everyone is on for the dating game. Well, I can say that it is merely impatience.
However, I believe in the saying that "Don't rush what you want to last forever." You must learn to let that love develop naturally and maturely in its own time.
FOUR SIGNS OF AN IMMATURE LOVE
1. THAT "ME" MENTALITY - Your focus is still your own selfish desires. There is always a need to get something from the relationship, it can be fame, pleasure, and emotional gratification.
2. NAME CALLING IN FIGHTS - A mature person will not use harsh words or name-calling when mad. If you really love someone, you will still respect him/her even if you're in a fight.
3. YOU WANT TO CHANGE THE PERSON - Remember, you cannot change a person's heart, if you do, you will only tear him/her apart. However, you can always pray for that person, give it to the Lord and the One who knows everything. If you truly care, never stop praying for your loved ones.
4. JEALOUSY/DISTRUST/OBSESSIVE - Are you that kind of person who is always suspicious about something. You're always too worried about your partner? I wonder how tiring it must be, there's always a feeling of heaviness and anxiousness.
However, It is said in:
1 CORINTHIANS 13:7
"Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance."
For the past years, this has been the source of my motivation and hope when it comes to my love life. I don't know, it's just giving me a sense of peace and security, that true love never gives up and endures forever. And there's always hope, there's always faith. Love always wins!
Leo Buscaglia says:
"For a moment, love can transform the world. Love is life...and if you miss love, you miss life."
WHAT IS THE REAL DEFINITION OF LOVE BASED ON GOD'S TRUTH?
JOHN 3:16
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on him should not perish, but have eternal life."
JOHN 15:13
"There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends."
ROMANS 5:8
"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us."
1 CORINTHIANS 13:1
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth."
This is Agape Love, the highest form of Love. It refers to the covenant love of God to us. God loves you! No matter what you've done or where you've been. Our Father gave His only Son, our Lord Jesus Christ to save us from the darkness of sin. Before we are so vulnerable, enslaved of sins but thanks to the Lord, now we are freed.
It is true that you cannot give what you don't have. How can you give love if you constantly feel unloved? You know what, you don't have to worry, there is someone who loves you. Jesus can only satisfy your heart. God's love is abundant. He is always present in every aspect or situation of your life. You only need to seek Him with all your heart.
FINAL THOUGHTS
I'm not an expert in relationships neither on Love. I still commit mistakes and I am still learning. But I believe no one wants to be miserable in life. And if you're in the love searching game, take a break, don't over the search, do not hurry. But don't just sit down! Why not cherish and use this moment of your life to do things that make you happy, grow with your family relationships and self-development. Patiently wait until love finally finds you.
Maybe you've been in a relationship before or you haven't, and still asking the universe, where is 'the right one'. Remember that God has a plan and purpose for you! And someday somehow you'll get there. Just stay in the path where God called you to be.
God knows the desires of your heart. He knows every heartbeat of it. Are you still in doubt to trust Him?
Learn to trust in God's plan. Surrender your desires to Him. You may not know, someone out there is praying for you. Because you are worth praying for.
THOUGH THERE ARE THINGS THAT YOU WANT TO DO RIGHT NOW,
THERE ARE WORDS THAT YOU WANT TO SAY TO SOMEONE,
HOWEVER, LOVE WILL ALWAYS REMAINS!
BECAUSE LOVE IS EXPRESSED IN SELF-CONTROL AND PATIENCE!
EVEN IF WORDS LEFT UNSAID...
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